Stop Setting Goals + Do This Instead

Plus: 21 Tips to Help You

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Here’s how you excel at life:

Sounds familiar?

Yeah, it’s bullshit. At least for me.

It sounds great in theory, but in reality, this always led to me endlessly agonizing about the “perfect goal”.

I turned 26 just recently. Ten years ago, I was a completely different person.

I spent the first half of my 20s trying to figure out who I want to be and what I want to do with the rest of my life.

In the meantime, I studied 4 different subjects at university and just finished med school; I moved three times, visited 12 countries, wrote a novel and several short stories, had about 8 different blogs and websites, did 51 online courses, met the love of my life, married him two years later (even though I didn’t even want a relationship in the beginning), bought an apartment, made a lot of music, read a lot of books, filled a tower of journals and I still have no fucking clue.

I learned a lot about myself: my likes and dislikes, what I want and don’t want to do, and what I really care about. I still have no idea where I want to be in ten years. I don’t even know who I’ll be in ten years.

Then I read two books: “Skip the Line” by James Altucher and “Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World” by David Epstein (and by “read” I mean I listened to them on Scribd). And as outstanding books do, they changed my way of thinking.

Now, I don’t believe you should set long-term goals anymore. Because the person who reaches the goal ten years from now, is not the person who set them, and she might not give a fuck about them.

Instead, I want to seize the opportunities that I have right now. I want to try new things, make short-term experiments and see what happens.

I don’t know who I am until I see what I do.

Sounds nice, right? But what if your life doesn’t provide you with a lot of interesting opportunities?

You’re lucky. Here are 21 ways to open up new opportunities in your life:

What do you think your life would look like if you did all of those things?

Don’t think too much about it. Try it out.

Make this your first experiment.

Try it for 30 days, or even just a week. Jump on the opportunities that come your way and see where you end up.

Hope I’ll see you there.

Your friend, Charly.



Med student by day, writer by night.

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